You are not alone in how you feel.
You are not alone in how you think.
You are not alone in wanting more for yourself.
You are not alone in wanting to achieve more.
You are not alone in feeling frustrated that things aren’t working out how you wanted them to.
You are not alone in your disappointed. It’s ok that you tried, you gave it your all, and it didn’t happen. I know because I’ve been there too. Too many times, I’ve beaten myself up because I failed and feel as though I deserved to be misery. Not anymore. And I don’t think you should do that either.
You are not alone in feeling like you’re alone.
You are not alone in being scared that you’ll end up alone.
You are not alone in feeling frustrated with love. Heck most of us are! Whether you’re single or in a partnership, it can feel incredibly lonely either way. Having someone doesn’t always mean you’re happy and being on your own doesn’t mean you’re lonely. And if you are lonely, that’s ok too! I often feel lonely and I’m learning to embrace it. It’s when I feel lonely that I get to learn about myself – who do I want to connect with and why? What would I rather be doing and is it a healthy activity? How can I refocus my energy on something more fulfilling? Sometimes it works out great, sometimes I give into my temptation and regret it later… It’s all apart of rebuilding my relationship with myself.
You are not alone in wanting to be loved.
You are not alone in wanting someone to love, cuddle and kiss.
You are not alone in wanting to be accepted and embraced for who you are. That’s something we all want, whether we want to admit it or not. We all want to be adored and celebrated for who we are. We want to be desired, someone to make love to and fuck because it feels good, brings us closer and furthers our connection. We want someone to love us. We want someone to bring out the best in us and for us to help them become their best selves.
You are not alone in missing them. It’s ok to miss them and want them back. It’s ok to miss them and not want them back. It’s even ok to want to remind them how much they’re missing out but you don’t need to act on it.
You are not alone in wanting closure. It’s ok to want to reach out, maybe for one last time and then, you can peacefully close that chapter in your life. It’s also ok if that doesn’t happen. It’s hard but you can learn to forgive them for the pain they caused and heal on your own.
You are not alone in wanting validation. You are attractive, desirable and loveable. It’s ok to want attention. It’s ok to want affection, intimacy, and connection. I know when I get really insecure, I can “act out” and try to get attention from someone I have no business engaging with. It’s normal. If anything, social media primes you to crave constant validation, attention and the approval of others, 24/7. It’s ok if you want to give in, just be mindful of your actions. As long as you are conscious of your decision, the potential repercussions and have made peace with that, then, by all means, do what you need to heal.
You are not alone in feeling like you’re a mess, even if you feel like you’re a mess up. The more I put myself in the public eye, the more scared I am of making the wrong move, saying something inappropriate and be misunderstood because what I said and/or done was take out of context. I have learned to find a balance of being more considerate of other people’s experiences and interpretations of my behavior and being my best self. Increasing my consciousness has allowed me to learn more about myself and help ensure I can communicate with others in a way they will most likely understand my intentions.
You are not alone in feeling like an imposter sometimes. Sometimes I get scared someone will call me out publically, scream “You’re an imposter” and then yell out all of my mistakes and flaws. Truth is, most of us are trying our best. Some are better at making it look easy than others. We’re all trying to figure out how to become better and be better.
You are not alone in not having everything you want. We all are working towards that. We want to be successful, admired and celebrated for our hard work, achievements, and character. We want to reach our goals, share the rewards with those we love and make an impact. It is ok that you’re not there yet so keep on working to get there. Do something every day, no matter how small it feels, that could bring you closer to your goals. Ask yourself why it’s so important for you, why does matters and why you are the person to do it. Once you have these answers, let it drive you across the finish line, when things are tough, when you get lost and feel like you’re doing the impossible. Remember, it’s not a no, it’s a not now so try to find what you can do to get yourself to reaching all of your dreams.
You are not alone because we are all here with you.
Inspired by Brian Nguyen.
Melissa Thi Le is the Founder of Strive With Me, a business owner, and community leader. She loves learning about personal development, business, and social impact as she builds a life dedicated to combating social issues affecting millions of people. She created Strive With Me to build a community to support each other on their journey towards achieving their goals. You can reach Melissa by sending her an email at Contributor@strivewithme.com or joining our Facebook Group. You can read more about what Melissa is striving for here and more of her articles here.