Have you ever wonder to yourself: why you do the things you do? Take my blog for example. Why do I have a blog? Why do I write about topics such personal and professional development, relationships, traveling, and a few inspirational pieces here and there? Why do I write at all? And does any of this even matter?
It is important that we understand the reasonings behind the things we do. Not only is it important to have a purpose and direction but it is also essential that we use our time and efforts wisely in order to make the most out of ourselves. Being aware and reflective of your actions allow for a deeper level of understanding, yourself and your behavioral habits. Understanding your psyche will open so many doors for you and help guide you on your journey and your pursuit of the things you are passionate about.
With me, I write for a number of reasons. I write because blogging is a creative outlet for me to explore and reflect on various topics that I am interested in exploring. It also allows me to share with those kind enough to take the time out to read my posts about topics that I think they might also find fascinating. By sharing my thoughts and experiences on topics such as why I shouldn’t settle just to have someone in my life or why I think leaving your comfort zone allows you to discover so much about the world and what you’re missing, I hope to connect with at least one reader out there, who shares a similar view point that I do but have yet to find someone who has ever felt the same way.
My biggest goal for this blog is to empower my readers to pursue what they love and what they have said they’ve always wanted to do but may never thought was possible. I want to encourage my readers to try new things, take risks and leave their comfort zone (hopefully never to look back). I want to be there for them as a guide to show them that there is a beautiful and wonderful world out there, ready to be explored and welcoming you to dominate it (kinky, I know). I want to be person to that they never expected to be out there, someone that thinks they same way they do, and isn’t afraid to say what’s on her mind. I want to show my readers that they’re not alone. They’re not the only one that thought we don’t talk to each other enough and it’s okay to break up with someone if they don’t make you happy. I want to them to know that I’m scared too and I’m not sure if I’m doing the right thing all the time but that doesn’t mean I should give up and neither should they.
If you, as my reader, were to take anything from this, it should be that I’m just like you. I am trying to figure it all out too. I don’t have the answers and half the time, I don’t know what I’m doing either. But what I do know is that you are not alone and that you should never stop striving to be better.
I write because I want to be better. I want to become a better writer so I force myself to read and practice my writing. If you knew me two years ago, I dreaded writing and would have never been open to sharing my writing to the masses because I knew my writing skills were not up to par. However, instead of blaming my negative educational experience and relationship with writing, I did something about it. I begin reading as much as I could and studies different writing styles. I registered for a Creative Writing class in college and gave myself no choice but to write and explore the inner layers of myself. I hated opening up, especially with my writing, because I knew I was going to be judged, not only for my poor grammar skills but my inabilities to transition from topic to topic and articulate my thoughts.
Even until this day, I get nervous every time I post a new blog, scared of being harshly judged and being rejected. Being vulnerable is scary as it is, but opening yourself up to permanently be immortalized on the internet takes “being vulnerable” to a whole other level. As you can tell, I still make PLENTY of mistakes. I continuously have make grammar and spelling mistakes and you can see them sprinkled throughout my pieces. I sometimes go on tangents and loose my original point. My topics of my posts are never exactly the same as I thought it would be when I started. It is always changing because I’m always changing as I explore each topic and the deeper layers of myself. I write and write and edit and write some more. I revisit my post the next day and rewrite everything I wrote the day before.
After all of this said, you may ask, why do I do this? Why would I open myself up for my friends and strangers to judge me? Why do I allow myself to be vulnerable in order to try and connect with someone that I’ve never met and probably will never meet?
Why? Because I know what it’s like to feel alone in this world and wanting someone so badly to connect to but having no one there to tell me that I’m doing the right thing and what I do really matters.
If you know me personally, you will know I am a very flawed person. I make a lot of mistakes and have failed at a lot of things. The one thing that I believe sets me apart from other people is that I don’t let my failures set me back. I take them as lessons and get right back up. I dust myself off, laugh at myself for being so silly and how I could have gotten myself into this one and figure out how to do it better this time. If there is ever a secret that I should share with you, that is it. From what I’ve learned from making tons and tons of mistakes and failures, whether it’s with career choices, intimate partners, or even life choices, no matter what happens, learn from it and learn how to do it better this time around.
If I can do this, overcome my fears of being rejected, embarrassed, and ridiculed to help one person, just one person, discover their passion and feel confident enough to take that leap of faith then that means I’m doing something right. And if I can take a risk to do something that I am passionate about, something I said, “I’ve always wanted to do”, such as start my own blog, you can do whatever it is you’ve thought of as you read this post.
The first step to it is to believe in yourself and then, just do it. No excuses and no waiting around. Plan it, execute it, and learn to pick yourself up every time you make a mistake. Now go out there and pursue your passion!
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