Now as a 30-year-old, I’m proud to say I’ve overcome (a good amount of) the insecurities I had from my teens and twenties. Sure, I still care about what other people think (more than I would like to sometimes) but…
Unrealistic Love Expectations – Confessions of a Recovering Hopeless Romantic
As I approach 30, I can’t help but reflect on the expectations many of us have on love, romance, and intimate relationships. Like many, I grew up romanticizing love. Due to conditioning from fairy tales, tragic Shakespear plays, and societal…
Not everyone deserves access to you
Despite what you were taught, were told you should feel guilty for, or what you believe, not everyone deserves access to you. When it comes to your time, energy, and focus, people have to earn their right to you. This…
7 Tips to Improve Your Conversations and Connect with Others
We all want to build better connections with others. Most of us don’t want to admit that we’re not quite sure how to do that… Whether you’re forming friendships, building communities, or looking to address a nation, learning how to…
The hard truth about change
Change is not easy, nor is it suppose to be. Unfortunately, by hoping we can change a bad habit or personality trait overnight, we set us up for failure. Behavior change takes time, discipline, a deeper understanding of who you…
If you’re going to fight, you better do it right
It’s been difficult as of late to escape hate and toxicity. It feels like everyone is fighting each other – trying to one up one other or prove the other person wrong. …what are we even fighting for? Is there…
Why Every Day Should Be Valentine’s Day
Gentlemen (and ladies) before you freak out (or get too excited), I am not saying you HAVE TO take your significant other to expensive dinners, plan elaborate scavenger hunts reminiscing every milestone you had, or propose every day. No. All…
3 Hard Lessons about Life That You Learn from Dating
When it comes to dating and relationship, there are a lot of hard life lessons that all we must go through in order to grow and truly understand ourselves as an individual and as someone’s partner. We’ve all been through…
Without a goal, you can’t score
Yesterday was the first of November. The first day of a new month. For many of us, the first of November means the first day of holiday preparations as we look forward to relaxing with a cup of apple cider…
If I didn’t love myself
If I didn’t love myself, I wouldn’t be where I am today. I wouldn’t be able to push myself to try new things. I would learn that being comfortable is what’s most important and that self-growth doesn’t matter. I would…
Happy birthday! An Open Letter to My Younger Self
Dear 22 year old Melissa, HAPPY BIRTHDAY GIRL! Last night was rough, I know! Your best friend really got you good! She feed you drink after drink but at least you know, she would always take good care of you. It’s…
Vulnerability
In the simplest way, being vulnerable means opening yourself up. It means opening up to someone and giving them the ability to hurt you, whether it’s physically or emotionally. Sounds like it could be pretty dangerous right? So why do…
What it feels like to think you’re falling in love
You look back on how the two of you met and you can’t help but laugh to yourself. Let’s be honest, you didn’t think that moment would have meant anything, until now. It wasn’t until now, after enough that has happened for…
