When someone hurts us, it’s easy to take it personally. How could you not, right? They said something mean that they knew would hit us hard. They did “that thing” because they knew we were insecure about it. They went…
Set yourself up for success by setting necessary boundaries
Compassionate reminder: The “relationships” mentioned in this article apply to any and all relationships: friendships, family members, romantic partners, colleagues, and other professional relationships, even the public, social media, and our communities. In Part 1 of our How to Set…
Why setting boundaries is hard and how to get started
I’ll start off with this – setting boundaries can be tough. When you’re used to putting others’ needs and comfort before your own, establishing your boundaries with people feels terrifying. It’s perfectly normal to be anxious about this. This article…
Feeling the feels
Trigger Warning: This article mentions emotional highs and lows that may be triggering for some people. Reading this article might arise feelings of sadness, healing, and self-awareness, so please read with caution and (self-)compassion. Many thanks, MTL. Emotions can…
Fixing our relationship with our emotions
Trigger Warning: This article mentions emotional highs and lows, including suicidal ideation that may be triggering to those who have experienced it and/or have suffered from suicidal attempts, directly or indirectly. Reading this article might arise feelings of sadness, healing,…
Not everyone deserves access to you
Despite what you were taught, were told you should feel guilty for, or what you believe, not everyone deserves access to you. When it comes to your time, energy, and focus, people have to earn their right to you. This…
How to ask for what you want
We all know that one person who seems to get everything! Sure, they can be sweet and charming, but how are they able to convince others to do whatever they want? More importantly, how can you get others to help…
10 Ways to Create Empowerment in Your Life From the Boardroom to the Bedroom
As a coach, I like to look at a snapshot of my client’s life when we start working together. Creating a life filled with balance and high levels of satisfaction can feel elusive when they’ve lost their focus. The Wheel…
What You Can Do About Financial Literacy and Abuse
One of the topics many people avoid talking about is money. Financial literacy is rarely taught – not even the basics of saving and spending. Many times people learn about and implement financial habits as a last resort, typically after…
How do you show appreciation?
Showing appreciation is an essential part of a relationship. So much so that the lack of appreciation can lead to insecurities, conflicts, and eventually fall out. This can happen regardless if it’s between family members, friends, colleagues, or an intimate…
If you’re going to fight, you better do it right
It’s been difficult as of late to escape hate and toxicity. It feels like everyone is fighting each other – trying to one up one other or prove the other person wrong. …what are we even fighting for? Is there…
Why Every Day Should Be Valentine’s Day
Gentlemen (and ladies) before you freak out (or get too excited), I am not saying you HAVE TO take your significant other to expensive dinners, plan elaborate scavenger hunts reminiscing every milestone you had, or propose every day. No. All…
If I didn’t love myself
If I didn’t love myself, I wouldn’t be where I am today. I wouldn’t be able to push myself to try new things. I would learn that being comfortable is what’s most important and that self-growth doesn’t matter. I would…
Happy birthday! An Open Letter to My Younger Self
Dear 22 year old Melissa, HAPPY BIRTHDAY GIRL! Last night was rough, I know! Your best friend really got you good! She feed you drink after drink but at least you know, she would always take good care of you. It’s…
Vulnerability
In the simplest way, being vulnerable means opening yourself up. It means opening up to someone and giving them the ability to hurt you, whether it’s physically or emotionally. Sounds like it could be pretty dangerous right? So why do…
