Showing appreciation is an essential part of a relationship. So much so that the lack of appreciation can lead to insecurities, conflicts, and eventually fall out. This can happen regardless if it’s between family members, friends, colleagues, or an intimate partner.
Appreciation, similar to love and sex, seems like an area we’re supposed to naturally know, understand, and have an expert degree in. Showing appreciation can be difficult when words aren’t enough and the other person receives the message differently. I personally have a hard time showing appreciation to those around me. For some, giving my time and expressing gratitude for their influence in my life satisfies the relationship. While for others, I’m simply awful at showing it. Reasons include: our relationship dynamic may be different, compared to my more successful relationship, they require something I cannot quite give or don’t know how to give, or I simply have no idea what I need to do to show them I respect and care about them.
You may say, “Melissa, you can always ask how they would like to be appreciated!” True, but similar to love, it’s one of those things if you have to tell someone how to do it, it ruins the magic and questions the genuineness. Then there’s the 5 Love Language: 1) words of affirmation, 2) receiving gifts, 3) quality time 4) acts of service or devotion and 5) physical touch, however, some people are more complex than that. Also, it may not be the best idea to apply to certain relationships… For some dynamics, you really shouldn’t often touch them, buy gifts, or give compliment too much to avoid sending the wrong message.
We all share appreciation differently. As we are a community blog platform, I need your help with this!