When someone hurts us, it’s easy to take it personally. How could you not, right? They said something mean that they knew would hit us hard. They did “that thing” because they knew we were insecure about it. They went…
Compassionate reminder: The “relationships” mentioned in this article apply to any and all relationships: friendships, family members, romantic partners, colleagues, and other professional relationships, even the public, social media, and our communities. In Part 1 of our How to Set…
I’ll start off with this – setting boundaries can be tough. When you’re used to putting others’ needs and comfort before your own, establishing your boundaries with people feels terrifying. It’s perfectly normal to be anxious about this. This article…
Trigger Warning: This article mentions emotional highs and lows that may be triggering for some people. Reading this article might arise feelings of sadness, healing, and self-awareness, so please read with caution and (self-)compassion. Many thanks, MTL. Emotions can…
Trigger Warning: This article mentions emotional highs and lows, including suicidal ideation that may be triggering to those who have experienced it and/or have suffered from suicidal attempts, directly or indirectly. Reading this article might arise feelings of sadness, healing,…
We all got our own vices. If we’re honest with ourselves, we know very well what they are and aren’t surprised when we find ourselves in similar situations. There’s a reason why we make the same mistakes over and over…
Now as a 30-year-old, I’m proud to say I’ve overcome (a good amount of) the insecurities I had from my teens and twenties. Sure, I still care about what other people think (more than I would like to sometimes) but…
I’ll be the first to admit, I get in my own fucking way all the time. It takes me forever to finish an article (due to the self-inflicted judgment, shame, and self-rejection), so I have hundreds of uncompleted drafts and…
Nowadays, it’s all about self-love and I am all for it! We’re reminded over and over again of the importance of loving ourselves but have you ever wondered what it actually means? What does loving ourselves even look like? And…
As I approach 30, I can’t help but reflect on the expectations many of us have on love, romance, and intimate relationships. Like many, I grew up romanticizing love. Due to conditioning from fairy tales, tragic Shakespear plays, and societal…
Perfectionism is a funny thing. It’s the strong urge to do things “perfectly” even when the expectations are unrealistic. Whether it’s your first time trying something new or you have no idea what you’re doing, the pressure to do things…
Despite what you were taught, were told you should feel guilty for, or what you believe, not everyone deserves access to you. When it comes to your time, energy, and focus, people have to earn their right to you. This…
We all have our low points. We believe we’re going to land that job, promotion, date, or even that award we didn’t even know we wanted until it was dangled in front of us. Then, we get the dreaded email,…
As we’re in the gift-giving season, it’s essential to reward the most important relationship we have with the hottest gifts of the year. The relationship I’m talking about is the one you have with ourselves and the gifts? Well, you’re…
It’s odd to think of all the things you’re thankful for when there’s so much pain and suffering in the world. You may feel a sense of silliness, guilt, and/or shame in being grateful for your blessings when others have…
